April 5,2013
As I close out Spring Break 2013, i was reminded of all the lessons I have learned from my sons..
1. Boys arrive with plans; you just get to help direct for awhile
2. At 4 years old, Wilson informed us he was taking the training wheels of...f his bike. We could have laughed,but we didn't. Tom handed him the wrench and I took a picture. It may have been small to us, but to him, it was big. Remember it is all big to them.
3. At 7 they both told me they needed to talk to Dad about "stuff". I learned then how important their time is with Dad.
4. When they want to try something new, let them. We had piano, violin, drums, soccer, baseball,karate,basketball,and football..they learned something from each of these endeavors.
5. Let them fail..they will pick themselves up and move forward far faster than you.
6. When they say they are done with a sport or music or art, don't convince them you aren't. Remember you are along for the ride..
7. Never offer advice when they just failed miserably. Go get pizza and ice cream. They'll talk later.
8. Never give up a chance to teach them to drive. They have to spend 180 days in the car with you learning. It will be gone in a blink of an eye.
9. When they want to bring their friends for dinner,tell them to bring them! Make spaghetti and pizza and brownies, listen in and learn..
10. I learned when Dad takes them to get their first suit, it's important. Let them go.
11. When they tell you they love a teacher or a coach, ask why. I learned those are the same traits they are looking for in a parent. Patience. Kindness. Being there early and staying late to help.
12. I learned when they are picking a college, they need to go where their heart sends them. Not where you want them to go. God has a plan..
13. When they have a wreck, the truck is totaled and all they say is "mom, try to calmly close your eyes and thank God they are able to talk to you.
14. I learned that all those hours Tom and I snuggled in and read with them, they remember.
15. I learned that their very best friends are influencing much of what they do. Help them choose wisely when they are small...
16. I learned men are very important in a young mans life. Men who will cheer them on, encourage, push them forward. Men who build into their lives when they need another voice beside Dad. Grandpa, uncles, youth leaders, all important role models.
17.I learned when they come home from college, they are men. Treat them with honesty and respect.
18. I learned that while raising my sons I was impacting the way they will raise their own children. What is important to us, became important to them. Dinner together, praying before meals, Christmas surprises and hidden Easter baskets..they remember.
19. Always , always make sure they know that nothing that happens will stop you from loving them. There is no problem too big that can't be walked through together.
20. I learned it on 9-11 when they came running to me, and learned it over and over again throughout the past 20 years. You are who they look for in the crowd, wave to on the side, thank on national tv. When they walk through the door, they yell" Mom, I'm home." There is no one that takes the place of mom.See More
1. Boys arrive with plans; you just get to help direct for awhile
2. At 4 years old, Wilson informed us he was taking the training wheels of...f his bike. We could have laughed,but we didn't. Tom handed him the wrench and I took a picture. It may have been small to us, but to him, it was big. Remember it is all big to them.
3. At 7 they both told me they needed to talk to Dad about "stuff". I learned then how important their time is with Dad.
4. When they want to try something new, let them. We had piano, violin, drums, soccer, baseball,karate,basketball,and football..they learned something from each of these endeavors.
5. Let them fail..they will pick themselves up and move forward far faster than you.
6. When they say they are done with a sport or music or art, don't convince them you aren't. Remember you are along for the ride..
7. Never offer advice when they just failed miserably. Go get pizza and ice cream. They'll talk later.
8. Never give up a chance to teach them to drive. They have to spend 180 days in the car with you learning. It will be gone in a blink of an eye.
9. When they want to bring their friends for dinner,tell them to bring them! Make spaghetti and pizza and brownies, listen in and learn..
10. I learned when Dad takes them to get their first suit, it's important. Let them go.
11. When they tell you they love a teacher or a coach, ask why. I learned those are the same traits they are looking for in a parent. Patience. Kindness. Being there early and staying late to help.
12. I learned when they are picking a college, they need to go where their heart sends them. Not where you want them to go. God has a plan..
13. When they have a wreck, the truck is totaled and all they say is "mom, try to calmly close your eyes and thank God they are able to talk to you.
14. I learned that all those hours Tom and I snuggled in and read with them, they remember.
15. I learned that their very best friends are influencing much of what they do. Help them choose wisely when they are small...
16. I learned men are very important in a young mans life. Men who will cheer them on, encourage, push them forward. Men who build into their lives when they need another voice beside Dad. Grandpa, uncles, youth leaders, all important role models.
17.I learned when they come home from college, they are men. Treat them with honesty and respect.
18. I learned that while raising my sons I was impacting the way they will raise their own children. What is important to us, became important to them. Dinner together, praying before meals, Christmas surprises and hidden Easter baskets..they remember.
19. Always , always make sure they know that nothing that happens will stop you from loving them. There is no problem too big that can't be walked through together.
20. I learned it on 9-11 when they came running to me, and learned it over and over again throughout the past 20 years. You are who they look for in the crowd, wave to on the side, thank on national tv. When they walk through the door, they yell" Mom, I'm home." There is no one that takes the place of mom.See More
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